Tuesday, November 05, 2013

Little Known Fact About Erotica Writers

We Don't Want to Sex Chat With You

I know. Shocking. We are open with our Masters/Dommes/boyfriends/husbands/girlfriends/partners/whatevers about sex. Overall, we are free-spirited individuals who love writing about intimate details between couples, strangers or casual acquaintances. Erotica writers have to be free and open enough to the fantasy to write erotica. We don't have to be free and open with you. We don't know you. Erotica writers love their fans. Don't get me wrong. We love to hear how much you love our books, how we write about sex so raunchy that it makes your cock stand up, but don't talk intimately to us about the hardness of your cock in any way, shape, or form. It crosses the line.

It's a line that exists in other genres, too, but the line isn't crossed as often. You can't walk up to the writer behind the Dexter books and tell him how much he inspired you to kill your next-door neighbor with a roll of Saran Wrap and a machete. Jeff Lindsay will call the police on you, not carry on a conversation about how hard it was to clean up the blood while you chastise him for not mentioning that blood causes stains while writing his book.

The average fantasy and science fiction fan understands he can't learn to fly by wearing a cape, or walk through the wall of a train station to board the express to Hogwarts. Those fans know that zombies are not outside the fences of the prison trying to get in and eat brains, but they can chat about how amazing the fantasy is. Or if the fans really do believe too deeply in zombies, they become doomsday preppers. They take it to another level, but even those die hard believers don't expect the authors to get involved to that degree. All genres have lines that fans might want to cross, but most fans of the other genres understand that the story is fantasy. Except some erotica fans.

For some reason, we touch fans so deeply that they want to touch us back. I don't believe in being rude to fans. They might not be able to express themselves appropriately about how much they loved the characters, the sex, or the book itself, but they deserve respect. With that being said, fans should keep their touch appropriate.

Don't touch us, we'll touch you.


  1. I loved this. May I reblog with your permission?

    P.S. I promise not to talk about my 'cock' or lack thereof ;)

    Christina x

    1. I'm so happy you liked it. Of course you can reblog it.

      And I appreciate you keeping your cock-like thoughts to yourself! :)

  2. I havent experienced this yet ... but I can imagine since a lot of males on sites I belong to have cock shots as their avatar.
    Not very imaginative - as you can imagine :P
    Please keep them away!

    1. I'm definitely a cock-lover, but there's only one I want to hear details about. Men are proud of their dicks. I can't blame them; cocks are pretty awesome and do great things to us. There's a line! A cock-crossing line they shouldn't touch!

  3. Men are extremely clumsy when it comes to talking about something that turns them on - especially if they catch wind that the writer of a story is female. I also agree that you shouldn't have to deal with someone's unwanted advances under any circumstances, including online.

    But I don't entirely agree with your equating erotica with other genres when it comes to fans getting explicit about their interest.

    I think the typical erotica author would be hard-pressed to say that an idea for a story didn't come about when they were fantasizing or masturbating (or both). Sure, we polish it up so we obey the rules of proper storytelling, but in the end, we're not really that different from anyone else talking about their sexuality.

    By writing a story, I believe we are both entertaining and starting a conversation with our readers. It shouldn't surprise us when they talk back - especially when our subject matter is so provocative.

    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting! While this post was meant to be humorous, an underlining seriousness exists. I personally don't mind when fans want to have a conversation. Even those that cross the line don't offend me as long as they don't mind being gently nudged back to the other side of it.

      I think other genres have their die hard fans. People who are extremely passionate about their favorite subject. It may not give them an erection or make them wet, but it touches a deep need and longing within them. It can be just as powerful as an erotic story in terms of touching them or igniting a strong response.